There are a lot of frustrations during the entire process of surrogacy. Unlike other situations in life where one can actually try and do something to deal with it, surrogacy process has too many variables which are beyond human control.
Some possible points of frustration can be:
- Choosing surrogacy – deciding on surrogacy as a way to create or expand your family can be sometimes difficult especially for women. Social stigma around being unable to carry your own child still exists in some cultures.
- Distance – as an international IP, sitting far away from your surrogate, can be especially difficult. In the case where surrogacy is in a developed country, rules are clear. But not all countries offer the same level of legal cover.
- Deciding on an agency – depending on which country you choose your surrogacy in, finding the right agency can be a difficult, time consuming and confusing task. In some countries, there are many agencies with almost no certifications or controls. This adds an additional element of risk, especially since large payments are involved.
- Connecting with the right surrogate – in countries such as Ukraine, Colombia and the USA it is relatively easy to find a surrogate. However, in Canada, where surrogacy is strictly altruistic, it can take sometimes much longer to find someone. Many agencies in Canada also struggle with finding surrogates for their clients. Hence, when considering Canada as a surrogacy destination, it becomes even more important to connect with the right agency.
- Creating embryos – this is contingent on many variables as well. To name a few: your country of residence/nationality, whether you need an egg donor, country where you intend to take your surrogacy journey etc.
- Transfer – After jumping through all those hoops, and finally waiting for that time when your surrogate can be finally pregnant! And you take that deep sigh! One of the most exasperating things that can happen at this stage is to find out that the embryo did not take. And your surrogate needs to go through a cycle all over again for the next transfer.
- Waiting – Finally comes the news that you have been waiting for – the positive pregnancy test! ?And then the real waiting starts ☺️. But this waiting is one of joy, and eventually having that little bundle of joy in your hands. ???
The whole process is very long, and needs a lot of patience. And a lot of guidance and support along the way.
But there is definite light at the end of the tunnel!
Stay calm and Stay positive.
Good Luck. And if you need advice, feel free to contact us.